Immigrant Tales- II

Adapt. If there's one thing immigrants too, willingly or unwillingly, is that they adapt. To a new culture, to new people ,to a new climate, to new professions, to new languages, to a completely new world. A world so different from what they have known. A world so away from the one they come from. A world so new it has to be discovered.

But adapt they do,and how. I got yet another glimpse of it today.

I watched her as she spoke to him. "You must oil your hair. See, back home, we are oiling our hair. Which is why it is not turning white. See, your hair, too white. And you are not old. Still young. And here, in the apartment buildings, you live in an apartment building , ya? the water is too hard. That is it. That is the trouble. All hairs going white."

So spoke the Pakistani beautician to the white Canadian man, while she cut his hair. And he listened, and nodded and consented as she explained why he was turning white and made references to back home where people's hair did not turn white because they oiled their hair and so on and so forth.

Meet N. Talkative N. Always doling out advice, N. Spirited N. N, in her black T-shirt and blue denims, N. With flat soled black shoes. Short hair. Maroon lip gloss.Still talking incessantly to the Canadian man, N.

"How old you must be? Not too much. Ya? See, that's what I am saying. You have to be careful. See, here, no one looking really after their hair. Just shampoo and condition, what is that? See,back home, we are oiling. And putting egg. All natural thins. No chemicals. Oil is good. And what you must do is putting some egg...not whole egg, just white part..okay, now it's done...you do, hahn, you do all I am saying and see, all white hair is gone. All the girls are thinking who is this nice young man"

Ok, bye now, you have a good day"

"Yeh gore log na, bahut inko samjhana padta hai..bilkul kuch oil nahin, kuch nahi. Abhi dekho hamare wahan, to hum log bilkul time lekar yeh sab karte hain. Chalo, threading hai? Ek minute, thoda hindi music laga leti hoon. Abhi pata nahi na doosre yeh gore clients ko pasand nahi hai to. hamare log to acha lagta hi hai, na, hindi music. '

And switching to the vernacular, and humming the bollywood tune, she turns to me. And transforms into the N I know.


To the N that has spoken to me if who she is. And the life she lived back in Pakistan. Where she lived for 35 years. Of which ten were spent being the eldest bahu in a joint family of 13. Doing what is expected a eldest bahu of a joint, typically conservative family. A simple, domesticated life of meals to be cooked, children to be tended, in laws to be looked after, marriages to be attended or arranged, festivals to be celebrated. A busy house of 13 people, N in the thick of it all.

Then, the move to Canada. For a better future and a University education for the kids. From the three storey full house to a one bedroom apartment with 4 people. From the salwar kameez donning bahu to the jeans donning beautician. From elaborate meals being cooked for a family to sandwiches packed at 6am and lunches on the go. From conversing in the vernacular to conversing in English with the Candian 'Eh's" thrown in for good measure. From "khuda haafis" to "Have a good day".

"Acha, abhi yeh shape eyebrows ka maintain karna hai..next week aa jana......

The door opens and her next client walks in "Hi Cindy, very chilly outside, eh? What your skin looking so dry? See, I am always saying to use herbal facial. Back home...

N switches. I smile.

She has adpated. And how.